We don't use any 'tricks of the trade'. We just do our own thing. We have a different marriage than other people we know, and it works for us. We aren't afraid to voice our opinion or challenge the other person (within reason of course...after all, we aren't assholes). We love
Ex #1: My road rage annoys the heck out of Chris (sorry, babe...but you know I've gotten much better!).
Ex #2: Chris's forgetfulness drives me up the wall. I mean, how hard is it to remember to tell me he has an appointment, a game to ref, or that he made plans for us to be somewhere? I know that a lot of people have this problem with their spouse as well (I can't tell you how many of my girl friends deal with this too).
In the battle against my husband's forgetfulness, I have put a calendar on our frig and a white board/cork board hanging on a wall in our kitchen. We fill in things on the calendar or leave notes if our schedules cross and we don't get to see each other (the majority of the time he leaves me something more sweet or risque...I guess the latter will have to change once Landon learns how to read. HA!). That has kept us sane. I can't tell you how useful and how great those additions have been for this 'type a' working momma.
We argue and curse. We sometimes bicker in front of family and friends (sorry everyone, we're not the perfect couple that never fights). We love to be affectionate and do things to make each other laugh. We always stay honest, laugh a lot and communicate. Our marriage isn't perfect and neither are we, but we love each other and have been making our own version of perfect.
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What about you and your spouse, fiance, or boyfriend/girlfriend? How do you make things work?
This is too funny, this is mine and Tyler's marriage in a nutshell right here! haha he thinks I drive like a nut (I don't think I am aggressive or reckless, just get very easily mad when I think someone is doing something dumb) and if I had a penny for every time he has forgotten to tell me something...
ReplyDeleteIt adds a little bit of spice to the marriage, and we don't hold grudges, have no problem saying sorry when it is necessary, and I think we argue in a very fair way. It's all about communication, and even though we have only been married for four years, I think it is what makes our marriage very strong, the way we deal with each other that is. I think the same definitely goes for you guys as well!
My husband finds me to be too moody. I find him to be not emotional enough. We've only been married 6 months so we're hardly experts on marriage, but communication is most definitely key. Neither one of us are mind readers so if something's bothering us, we MUST open up about it. Sometimes it's a talk. Sometimes it's a heated argument. But once it's off our chests, we can agree to move on and take things away from it. And when all else fails, laugh. It truly is the best medicine. :)
ReplyDeleteIn this order: trust, respect, honesty, communication, aughter, regular intimacy, similar goals, individual hobbies, and fun!
ReplyDeleteI love this post! Thank goodness, I thought my boyfriend's forgetfulness was just him!
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